Define Your Core Values

Define Your Core Values

Understanding your core values is at the heart of truly knowing your needs.  "These are the things about yourself that are not likely to change. They are the tenets you grew up believing and that deep down inside still seem to fit into your life no matter what else changes," says JoAnne White, PhD, a therapist and instructor at Temple University.  Indeed, White tells WebMD that no matter how many qualities you put on your list of "must haves," nothing matters quite so much as finding someone who shares your core values. "In the end, they represent who you are and what you need. They are the deal breakers," says White. While core values are different for every person, they often touch on such personal issues as:

• The desire to have children
• Religious beliefs
• How you deal with money
• How you make important decisions
• The importance you place on honesty, integrity, fidelity
• Even how you view divorce itself 

And while we all have heard that opposites attract -- and experts say they do -- when it comes to the really big issues in our life, shared values are still what count the most.  "When it comes to our most important and lasting relationships, it's similar core values that becomes the glue that cements a couple together,"

This post and advice was found here:  http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/love-and-dating-what-you-need